Do you feel that you are somehow not enough?
Not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, tough enough, big enough, small enough, likeable enough, successful enough, important enough...
Let me help you realise that you are!
Hi, my name is Bradley Starkey. I am a Kent-based Counsellor, working from a discrete location between Canterbury and Faversham. I am fully qualified, fully insured and professionally registered with the BACP.
I support my clients to understand their feelings of ‘not enough’ and I help them to find out what it is they are really looking for from counselling and from life.
Due to messages we’ve received in life and/or due to the impact of difficult life experiences, we often feel that we are somehow not enough. Rather than trust, accept and value ourselves, just as we are, we often think ‘if only I could change this aspect of myself, or be more…, then I would feel acceptable, worthwhile, appreciated and valued etc’. Working together I support my clients to move from feeling ‘not enough’ – to feeling valuable, confident and authentically purposeful.
The truth is that you are more than ‘just enough’, you are brimming with potential, power and purpose. We all are, but often we just need a little help along the way to realise and/or remember this.
From working with hundreds of clients now, my experience is that striving towards some outer level of change in an attempt to feel that we are enough, rarely results in us feeling the sense of inner self-acceptance that we are all so desperately in need of.
The feeling of somehow not being enough often lurks in the background of a wide range of presenting issues such as low self-esteem, low mood and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, lack of certainty and/or sense of direction in life, anxiety, career problems, body image problems, addictions and obsessions…
Please get in touch if you feel that I might be able to support you. I look forward to hearing from you.
‘Our deepest fear is not that we are weak. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?’
The initial step of deciding whether or not to contact a counsellor – the step that also involves admitting that we could use some support and that we cannot do it all alone – is often a nerve racking step. It is also a courageous step. So if you are feeling fearful, unsure, worried or scared, then you have my full understanding.
I have years of experience in offering counselling support to a wide range of men and women.
A lot of my clients have been feeling on their own for some time because they have never had anyone to talk to about how bad or inadequate they secretly feel about themselves, or they have other worries that they’ve been keeping to themselves for a long time.
I also see a lot of younger people who have no real idea of what they want to do in life and yet feel an immense pressure to appear to be looking like they are certain and in control of their direction.
Many of my mid-life clients are questioning life decisions they have made such as career, relationship, friends, hobbies.
I see a lot of gay, lesbian and bisexual clients sometimes with issues related to their difficult experiences of growing up in what is still a predominantly straight world, but also often with other issues – low mood, addictions, regrets, career issues, relationship problems, parenting struggles etc. I also see clients who are confused and/or unsure about their sexuality.
I offer a non-judgmental space for you to share as little or as much as your feel comfortable with so that together we can work out what you are looking for from counselling and what the best way forward for you might be. I will not ‘make you’ do anything or put any demands upon you but I will support you to identify what it is that you need.
I look forward to offering you a discrete, supportive and effective counselling service.
Counselling sessions are either face to face, online, or a mixture of the two: please call or email and we can work out a best way forward for you. For local clients – the counselling shed is located between Canterbury and Faversham in Kent and if anyone is worried about whether they will be seen, or bump into colleagues, family or friends, the counselling shed is located in a discrete and private location.
Appointments are offered daytime or evening subject to availability.
My fees are as follows:
Individuals: £55 per session.
If required, I have a limited number of discounted rate slots for students of counselling and full-time students.
If you feel that you might benefit from my counselling support then please feel free to call for a no obligation 10 minute chat, or email, so that we can work out a best way forward. I look forward to hearing from you.
Whether you decide to contact me or not, and wherever you are in life and whatever you are feeling, I wish you well. In those times when you feel low it may be helpful to remember the medieval Sufi saying: ’This too shall pass’.
‘Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.’