Shame researcher Brené Brown says that, like men (see the page on this website ‘Male Clients’) women are handed their own version of the metaphorical box. For women, according to Brené, the expectation is to look, do and be, perfect but added to this, is the necessity of making it all look effortless. Brown summarises the conflicting and competing pressures that women are often brought up to feel:
Many of the women that I see enter counselling after reaching a level of exhaustion in their lives. They realise that the expectations that have been put upon them from quite a young age are unrealistic. By talking things through in counselling sessions, they are able to become more attuned to their authentic feelings and are then able to start to work out what it is they are really looking for and/or need.
Just to be clear that when I say women, I mean heterosexual women, gay/lesbian women, bi women, trans women – and I work in an LGBTQ+ affimative manner.
On this website I have used the terms ‘male clients’ and ‘female clients’ to talk about the service that I provide, however, I am aware that for some people, these terms in themselves are a source of confusion, stereotype and/or limitation. If this is the case for you then apologies if I caused any distress by maintaining the use of these binary gender distinctions and if you would like to explore this aspect of your identity then I would be really happy to hear form you.
If you have been struggling with any of the above problems or with any other difficulties that are not mentioned above, and you think I might be able to support you then please get in contact for a free no-obligation 10-15 minute chat.
*Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms
the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead. London, Penguin, 2012, p. 88-89.